Bagito

Have you ever heard the word “Bagito”?

Bagito is a Filipino word which means that a teenager boy or girl who engages himself or herself to premarital sex. Also, whose obligation is so big when he or she has a child in an earlier age.

Premarital sex is common in many Western countries because of their more liberated views on life. Many would think that a predominantly Roman Catholic and conservative country like the Philippines would be less worried about premarital sex and its consequences. In the past, there used to be a long courtship before a woman can accept a man to be her boyfriend. Relationships involved getting to know the person, building trust, and investing emotions without sexual contact. Culture, tradition, beliefs, values, and religion influenced Filipino’s point of view about premarital sex. Majority of Filipinos regarded sex as an act shared only between husband and wife. Filipino women were expected to give their virginity to their husbands on their wedding night. A local study suggests that Filipinos’ attitudes towards sex have dramatically changed over time.

According to 2014 Young Adult Fertility and Sexuality Study (YAFS 4), which the University of the Philippines Population Institute (UPPI) and the Demographic Research and Development Foundation, Inc. (DRDF) revealed that their study shows that one in every three youth aged 15 to 24 years old has engaged in premarital sex, the number increasing by more than 14 percent from almost 20 years ago, when the second YAFS was conducted. This translates to about 6.2 million youth who have engaged in sexual intercourse before marriage, according to UPPI’s Maria Paz Marquez.

Today in modern days, bagito is very rampant to our society. In a hotel, motel, riverside or park they will make love even if they are not yet married and blessed by Church.

As we can see there are a lot of video scandals uploaded in social media that a teenager couples are making love in the park or even in their school while wearing their school uniform.

These teenagers who feel incomplete, inadequate and unappreciated are more likely to seek comfort in a sexual relationship. But those with a life rich in relationships, family traditions, activities, interests and most of all consistent love and affirmation are less likely to embark on a desperate search for fulfillment that could lead to unwise sexual decisions.

Doing such thing makes them inhuman because they never follow what their parents taught them or the values that the school implemented but wait, do we have the right to judge them? Do we know the reason behind it? Do we also have same experiences like them? No! Right?

Yes, they are called as bagito because they are engaging themselves from pleasure however they still kids and don’t know what they are doing. Maybe they are just influence by their surroundings and the pressure they get from others.

What can we do now? There are a lot of them do not know what they are doing. Giving their bodies even they are not yet married only in pleasure and satisfaction. We all have the will and power to overcome this phenomenon. But how? Think within yourselves and try to inspire others to go back from negative to positive.

Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.

Thus, always remember that true love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.